tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5610810146856199913.post7264655317449875123..comments2024-03-23T05:13:18.984-07:00Comments on Finding a Different Path: Do I Know How You Feel? Jesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5610810146856199913.post-58965410368000621092022-10-06T18:41:56.685-07:002022-10-06T18:41:56.685-07:00I think there is always good intention behind any ...I think there is always good intention behind any kind of connection or commiserating. I don't see it as seeing one's experience as more or less than anyone else's, or rating anyone's experience with grief. I just know for myself that I can't say I know exactly what someone else is going through based on my own experience. We can seek to understand others' grief and experiences, we can show compassion, which I'm sure are the common goals. I hope that makes sense! 💜Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5610810146856199913.post-14056222279692687332022-10-06T18:36:31.362-07:002022-10-06T18:36:31.362-07:00Yes! I think there are so many common threads, but...Yes! I think there are so many common threads, but our unique histories mean that we experience things differently. I love that this community is so good at listening and abiding with others. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5610810146856199913.post-14373865253422213662022-10-06T18:35:11.288-07:002022-10-06T18:35:11.288-07:00Absolutely! I think we can appreciate others' ...Absolutely! I think we can appreciate others' experiences, and seek to understand how others feel in those moments, but it's impossible to know exactly how anyone feels. We all see through our own lenses and do the best we can with empathy. 💜Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5610810146856199913.post-29895137763793675582022-10-02T10:19:25.763-07:002022-10-02T10:19:25.763-07:00This makes me think of This Is Us, where Kate and ...This makes me think of This Is Us, where Kate and Toby (before they were Katoby) started going to some sort of weight support group. Madison is there, all 112 pounds of her, because she feels hefty (at least that's how I remember the scene).<br /><br />Yes, she feels hefty. I get that. But no, she's not in league with the others in the group. In a weird way, though, I wonder if she CAN empathize with them, because she feels it, too. How much of a factor is degree? That's the question I came to when I watched that episode and started judging her.<br /><br />As for your conversation, perhaps that person knew that no matter what grief those in the group had experienced, she was feeling held in their love and understanding and in-common-enough histories. xoLori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5610810146856199913.post-67546001680093460342022-09-25T20:52:58.083-07:002022-09-25T20:52:58.083-07:00I'm always amazed when someone thinks they kno...I'm always amazed when someone thinks they know exactly how someone else feels. Um no - especially as the answer after a statement like that probably is ... "right now, annoyed!" lol<br /><br />But I do think there are commonalities in loss, in childlessness, in infertility, etc that bring us together. I have seen it on message boards and blogs over the last 20 (gulp) years - there are a lot of things we feel in common, themes that are repeated over and over again. I hope they make us more empathetic and willing to listen to others. That is a comfort to me. Even though I don't know how you felt about your ectopic, despite having had them myself. But I am always willing to listen. <br /><br />Excellent post giving me a lot of food for thought.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5610810146856199913.post-60904391749726734912022-09-21T08:25:03.502-07:002022-09-21T08:25:03.502-07:00Very good post!
I think this is why I am so inte...Very good post! <br /><br />I think this is why I am so interested in researching what it's like to live life as a childless not by choice woman. I only know *my* experience. I want to learn from others' experiences.Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.com